Shut up Mind ! #3

There is one mind but split into two foes,
forever a battle of ego between them goes.

There is one which says,
You can do it, You have it,
Nothing will happen, Go for it.
It motivates you when in doubt,
It gives you courage when in fear.
It pushes you towards the rising sun.

Then there is the other one,
Its questions make you cower,
Its memories make you doubt.
It shouts idiot just back off,
First one is tricking you in trouble.
It pushes you towards the setting sun.

With new action, learning I plan,
Both foes start their mind battles.
How do you think will I win?

Buddha said:

Strengthen first, weaken the second
This is how you live and grow.

But there will come a time when
you give up both as first can't exist
without the second, they are inseparable twins,
when the time is right you give up these twins,
and then forever the sun will rise and shine.

Act of Kindness

I am smiling and feeling good. The reason is the mail from one of my blog readers "angel" (as she calls herself). She says one of her friends liked my blog and wants to post it at their site Share a Smile. These youngsters are full of energy who have started this initiative to spread a smile in society. Kudos to them and all the best ! 

It is a small gesture, a compliment on my blog and it has triggered the good feeling. That's all it takes to be happy. If I have to go back in past all the people who I like are the ones who have supported me in some small forms and and people who like me are the ones I have supported. 

We are humans and depend on others. To feel loved and happy, it can just be an understanding smile from a stranger when you are nervous or just a kind remark when you are fearful or just a lending hand from a  colleague when you are struggling with loads of work. It takes a small loving kind expression to make a person feel happy. It is cashless, free way of spreading happiness. This is what a relationship is all about, no roses and valentine gifts on one fine day !

I heard a beautiful wise quote it said -  "Judge yourself by how you made the person feel who you had just stopped talking to. If the conversation  made him feel good you are on the right track". About wisdom there is another quote which I must say as all situations cannot be generalized in one quote - "There is wisdom in also picking the right wisdom"

Life's Myth - You Win !

Get me those high marks ! Go win in the field.. Slog and you shall win.. You are taught to win, beating the rest and keeping your flag flying high... Winning is associated with celebration and happiness.. 

But alas there is only one person who can win or if you want to extend the top 10 as winners then only 10 can win in this race where participants are plenty... So if winning is happiness only 10 can be happy.. pretty unfair! Life is not about winning, it is about the process of living, win or lose is a mere consequence but life time is spent in the process, it is the process which needs to be concentrated on. It is the process one has to enjoy and be happy ! Win or lose is inconsequential as long as you have moved ahead on the road, made some progress.... 

Time to relax, reduce the stress and just enjoy the process..

Win and you will be happy,

lose and you will be cursed.

To Win I toiled,

To Win I pained,

To Win I suffered,

To Win I lost,

To Win I hated,

To Win I cursed.

I can win without winning !

by loving the moment of preparation,

Who cares of the result?

I don't need to suffer, to bend

I have loved the road to end.

What made the difference?

Along with a good friend I was looking back at life... How I was as a teenager and how life has turned out and what I have become what has been the turning points. Quite an interesting journey it has been.

Both of us share in fact I will say most of us share the same story.. The story is of being in a confused state looking for an identity in early years to certain key events which help shape us a belief in oneself and one is ready to take on the world. This belief in oneself however flimsy grounds it may be sitting on has made me look at life with love and gratitude. 

There are few people and events who have touched me, nurtured me and made me grow in this journey, I am thankful to them. That is all has made the difference. 

God has messed up !

The current state of the world makes me believe, God has really messed up or may be it is the earlier god recruited a wrong person as a successor. Violence is rampant, people kill each other for no reason, there is mad rush for money, there is rape, corruption and so many other evils (unending list).......

To top it to wash your sins you need money as God needs you to offer prayers which costs. So poor who do not have meals to eat can just not do anything to wash their sins, they have to suffer....

Nietzsche's said in  Thus Spoke Zarathustra

God is dead. God remains dead. And we have killed him. How shall we comfort ourselves, the murderers of all murderers? What was holiest and mightiest of all that the world has yet owned has bled to death under our knives: who will wipe this blood off us? What water is there for us to clean ourselves? What festivals of atonement, what sacred games shall we have to invent? Is not the greatness of this deed too great for us? Must we ourselves not become gods simply to appear worthy of it?

Being Happy

Happiness this is what we all are chasing, that is one and only goal which all of us have... Then there are complex theories of philosophy, psychology, growth, wisdom to explain this. I wonder is it so complicated that you need tonnes of brain power to get into philosophy, psychology to be happy... Cannot be. The creator or God has really messed up if it is this tough. 

A lot of people wonder on my status of being single and assume that I should be married to be happy.. The notions of happiness for people are set, have a partner, money. All this can make you happy. The judge who has been meditating for an out of court settlement believes so she said to be happy i must get over with this, stop thinking what is right or wrong just go ahead and be happy get the case over and marry again and be happy. 

On the contrary I am very happy. I may not be acquiring the conventional list for being happy. I am happy as I am without fear and insecurities, I am happy as I feel that happy. I have kind of drugged my mind, exercised and trained my mind to be happy. It is just the state of mind. It is an inner process and not acquiring a car or a wife, how can that make me happy as they are not inside me, inside me is the mind which controls everything. 

Lets look at anger to be angry do you need to acquire anything? you just feel angry as your mind does not let go of what happened, it is not trained to let go of, it is just sticks to it and is unforgiving, it is just in the mind. So is happiness it is another feeling which comes out of how you react to your interactions with life.

Happiness is a simple process of understanding the mind and steering it in right directions. Acquiring this knowledge of inner self is what leads to happiness. No complex theories of philosophy and psychology!

Talk it Over

One of my batch mate and a good friend has taken the leap.. leap away from the HR career.. she took it 2  years back, left HR did masters in counselling and today she is a practising counsellor. 

It is just awesome, you need a lot of strength and passion for this. Now she has launched a website - a model for being able to contribute to the world of suffering.. Wish her all the best, I am sure with her energy and intent this will go places.. 

Talk it Over - Wish you all the best !