Time to Change

The way we are living life today when compared to few years back, there is a drastic difference. If we go back further in time there will be no similarity perhaps. The life today is led through means which require considerable use of mind and much less use of the body. 

Let me illustrate going through a typical day - you get up and are greeted by the housemaids and cooks you instruct them what needs to be done or cooked. Then you get ready, are off to office, you need to drive which also requires some mental skill, driving can be stressful for the mind with the way traffic moves in my city and I am sure it can be similar for same or other reasons in other cities. In office with your laptops, blackberry or smartphones, technological aids the work gets done  - all done through the use of mind and least physical work.  You come home driving back. At home high chances that work may be at back of your mind. If you are a family person you end up managing the demands of wife, kids; again requiring mental strength. 

All the above is aided by technological aids which itself transform within a span of 2 years and that adds more pressure to the mind to learn how to handle these new aids. If you don't get it you will be left behind and in some time the earlier aids will not be available at all - so you have to learn.

In contrast if we go back in time the requirements of mind, body were very different. This is also the reason why kids today are more developed mentally and not physically. The stimulus to mind they get today is extremely higher. This brings me to the conclusion that we need to give up old ways of training ourselves, our kids. No longer the old system can ensure we keep healthy. A lot of people if are suffering from diseases of mind (it could be mild depression, stress or severe breakdown) is because they are not trained enough for the demands of life. Understanding of the mind and its training is where we must put considerable time. 

Move away the wisdom of the parents, life is changed it is time to create new wisdom. 

How to become Perfect

Every time I go attend trainings or read some self help articles on how to become better in life I feel miserable.  Miserable as I think they are a complete waste of time. 

The programs can only sell if they give a definite solution to the aspect they address. Therefore you will see in all such articles or programs there is always a few points solution  - Do these 5 things and master leadership. These are the secret of effective communication deciphered form the greatest, a sure shot way to negotiate your way through deals if you follow these steps, follow this and you shall manage the change effectively.

MASTER THESE !!!! there are enough examples they have changed people and their lives.. transformed is the word the best trainers use..

I wish it was this simple and all of us had become perfect by now !! .. It never works as real life scenarios has many shades and a simplistic linear solution never works, it is a medley of many such steps in varying proportions which works. It has to be decided basis the situation at hand and it is a subjective decision. This decision making unfortunately does not have any steps, it can never have. Let me illustrate this with a few wisdom quotes:

ALL GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT

vs.

TIME AND TIDE WAIT FOR NONE

THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FREE

vs.

THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS A FREE LUNCH

Contradictory principles when what applies and to what degree is a subjective decision, similar is about these trainings and articles. They can be good guiding post but no elixir.

Our trainings to make people better at what they do needs to change. It cannot be point solution but all trainings must be directed at the individual. It should train individuals at first to give tools to do a careful and honest self assessment plan and then directed towards working on the emotional quotient which is keeping the person away from being effective.

Yet again on Marriage

I think this seems to be my favourite topic ! I am reading this book by Bertrand Russell - Marriage and Morals, amazing insights..  he is a great thinker. His point is marriage was made as it is for many reasons and primarily linked with the economy, role of state. Cant agree more, I have read only 4 pages but just this thought is so appealing that I am writing about it. 

Anyhow will talk about it later. Right now there is another thought which I was thinking about what could have led to making marriage an extravagant affair. Throughout the world marriage is created to be a lifetime event. It is a big marketing event, huge parties, celebrations, lot of money is spent however not so much in divorce. Marriage is uncertain, unpredictable what it may bring to you but divorce typically is expected to end your current misery and bring you closer to regaining your happiness. Divorce perhaps calls for larger celebration..

The question I have why is it such a big event? why is marriage sold like one big romantic, idealist best thing to happen in ALL societies? I really wonder.. Marriage is much smaller event than birth of a child. Birth by all means is a lot bigger achievement and brings in a lot of positive change... Why do we not celebrate that much more than marriage?  

Marriage Outdated?

Read in the newspaper today that Mexico is planning to allow marriage contract for a fixed duration. At minimum someone will be married for 2 years post which is not renewed the marriage will be annulled. Very interesting thought! 

A lot has changed since marriage was conceptualized, the roles of men and women have changed, the life with technology has changed, the social structure has been transformed so marriage as it exists is in some way outdated. No wonder the rate of failed marriages has increased manifold. 

Few years from now I am sure a lot of what we take as sacrosanct like marriage will change and the current systems will be seen as we see the earlier systems. Take for example Purdah system, they were a reality and accepted sometime back but in today's context and the way we have grown it is nothing but a cruel system.. Question is -  Marriage: Is the countdown for its end begun?