Vulnerability

Life is a state of mind I concluded in my last blog.. The state of mind is nothing but an emotion.. And if happiness which is a state of mind the end goal, we need to manage this emotion better.. have the right ways to cultivate this emotion, cultivate the right triggers...

Theory of vulnerability says cultivating a state of worthiness by building capacity to be vulnerable is the best way to get into this state of mind.. it believes that we are wired for social connection, that's what is a powerful trigger for happiness.. social connection can only happen at an intimate level if we allow ourselves to be shown, the inner self is exposed and there is authenticity... 

It is about taking discarding your fear, insecurity and feeling of shame and being courageous... 

But I have one question which I am unable to answer - how much is enough? enough of social connection, vulnerability, etc.. it is still a trigger and a dependability...

Life is a state of mind...

Our state of mind is how we experience life. A moment the mind is in a state of happiness, another moment it is in despair, or ecstasy, or sad.. It is always a state which is very internal is what life experience is. 

Everything else the outside world is just a trigger.. A trigger is self constructed.. someone makes music as a trigger other, dance, someone travel.. you develop these triggers which give you a state of mind, some are conscious like jazz music leading to happiness some are unconscious like darkness leading to fear..

We live through these states of mind, triggers are constructed which put us in different state of mind... much like a programmer programs a software we program us through these triggers, a complicated maze of triggers and complicated variety of outcomes. 

Self help books, positive psychology, counselors, happiness coaches all teach how one can make positive triggers or better still you can be free of triggers which are difficult to achieve based on your current level of abilities and constraint...

Life and its meaning seems such an illusion if we are just a state of mind !!!

To live means life is a constant Work in Progress

Every day there will be an instance where I feel oh I could have done it better, may be next time. 

This is what keeps life moving, imagine if I had to live each day with the same level of expertise, same reactions, same actions... It would have been nothing but a predictable pattern much like a bug free computer software, caught in same monotony, would stink in time like stagnant water.. I am glad there are bugs in life which keeps us on toes and help us improve.. makes living a constant work in progress.. you give up putting in effort, you give up life... giving up is moving backwards.. 

There is loads to learn, many skins to shed, many fears to conquer, I am glad my life is still work in progress and is progressing ahead!