what is most stupid in life?

This is the question which i have for all. In the old story of kalidas (i think it was him only) he was considered to be very stupid given he cuts the branch of tree from the side where he is being supported.. sure to fall when the branch will be cut.

That level of stupidness is what i am talking about...

My opinion is most of us human beings fall in the category and are very ignorant of the fact. We have crazy demands/ wants from life but not even a single step is taken. Just keep freting and fuming and wanting more but will never move our lazy bums.

People want great careers but are not willing to work hard, people want love but not wanting to give their selfishness or never expressing them under a garb called fear, want to top in studies but cannot study, want to be intellignent but will not exercise their brains, want to be slim but not wanting to even do a little exercise or give up those junk food.. look around and there are so many such instances.. all waiting for a magic wand. It is even worse in India with our superstitions the magic wand is replaced by promises to make God happy through rituals and get all they want... Bribe God with prasad and prayers !!

what can be more stupid !!

unpredictable, ever evolving, ultimate conundrum, satisfying, endless opportunity

so what do you think I am talking about, it is my favorite topic.. how I just love blabbering about it assuming myself to be a little philosopher... I am talking about the one and only -

"Life"

It is so perplexing and I am most preoccupied by trying to understand it. I wonder how people can be bored if they are really living a life.. come to think of it there are so many riddles to solve that one could just keep himself/ herself busy in the game of life. it is just so wonderful it will make you feel one moment that you are on top of the world and another or the very next moment it will take you to another extreme opposite.. life becomes hell.. and if you give start thinking about it , trying to tame it well you have plenty in hand.. time to get bored?.. never.. I believe the people who get bored have not been living but just existing on the endless toys of mankind .. parties, shopping, TV etc.. dip yourself in life and you will be amused..

so life keeps me busy in its different facets and with it I keep evolving and it seems like an endless pit..

today I write about it due to an accident which though does not impact me directly but is powerful enough to make me think.. there was a fire in bangalore last week and someone I know indirectly died in that fire.. young, quite ahead in the rat race, earning well, survived by a family of wife, kids.. just in one moment passed away.. I don’t feel sad but what I feel is scared.. life is so unpredictable, it could just end anytime.. while I am typing the fan over my head could just fall and will be dead or become a cripple.. death or unfortunate happenings are equally a reality as much as happy ending which we always see in movies and feel good about... or the happy endings about everything which we keep dreaming about.. the opposite is so true.. in one moment it can just be on another end.. it makes me wonder am I living my life the way it should be.. do I have enough time or am i using the enough time which I have  (the happy peaceful moments) well enough to prepare myself to the higher ideals before I get sucked up to another end, with life playing its games.. i am not being a pessimist here, u never know I may be just lucky to be on the peaceful side of life for most my living life.. though it comes unannounced so I am not sure...

am I right in waiting and toiling hard doing the right actions?.. waiting for a better future with home loans, slogging hard for a retired life for myself and my dear ones... can I just not do with less, take risk and get admitted in the government hospitals if sick, stand in a long queue for buying it at a lesser price and just use my time, getting retired right now itself... what if I die tomorrow, have I lived well till date...

can I thank myself to an extent that I do make sure to spend some time in activities which I consider to be of a higher ideal.. but that little time, is that enough? or should I increase time spent.. am I getting greedy with making best use of this good time and life just as is...

I am aware all I wrote has no meaning in true philosophical context where they say, just be in present irrespective of consequence as you cannot control it, what u control is ur own action.. but I still wonder...

death is a reality and one cannot run away from it.... it raises many questions.. some random ones I posted above I am sure there are more and there are many answers.. not one answer to all.. that’s what makes life interesting.. it can never be boring if you are really involved in living... i dont need to get high on alcohol or drugs to make it interesting, life itself makes it interesting !!

love..a perfect partner

I know two woman who are waiting dreamily for their prince charming ... knight in shining armour... life is kind of stuck, all other events are not so fulfilling... and this blog origniates from there....

There was a time when I also waited for my dream woman.. long time back while i was studying and all those romantic movies created that desire of that perfect partner who you could live life with.. a life which could not get any better.. " you complete me"  - such are the dialogues one dream of saying to a potential partner... But i am not a die hard romantic this phase did not last long, even when it was there it used to come not so frequently.. i must also add that there was a physical longing as well and romance dreams were less emotional but more physical... boys are like this, can blame the harmones and how we are...

anyways that was then, life has changed and now i wonder what is romance and love... no i have not regressed i would say i have moved ahead..  love and perfect partner i see now practically and not emotionally.. confusing statement...

let me get to point, I think love or a partner is quite a waste the way i saw it earlier... imagine why will i need to be "complete" or me being "really happy" dependent on someone else... i think, believe to a level of arrogance i have everything in me which can make me happy ... yes you may have needs but that does not mean that without fulfilling those i will not be happy ... i fail to give so much power to someone else... it is like giving a remote control of your life, happiness to someone else.. i would like to be happy myself, i dont want any crutch.. god or nature has given me enough to be happy

a decision to live life with a partner to me is very practical, before anyone thinks that i am like a stone no emotions... let me clarify i am pretty sensitive and emotional... but still finding love/ partner is practical...

i dont want love, partner to be happy, it needs to be a symbiotic relationship where what we can together can move ahead, not to complete each other but it is perhaps companionship or may be sharing of load... it is part of being in being lazy and fighting it out alone... 2 makes it easier to carry the same load... you will have more time to be lazy and do more... the relationship has to be equal with what i offer vs what she offers... we have to walk the same roadds... she is not going to make me happy by being just intelligent, beautiful, bold, and all other adjectives...  she has to share the load, walk similar paths.. it is not about caring and being just being loving.. it is about sharing of load of life.. i have seen this with myself till i do not get the desired object, that becomes the center focus of me being happy, once i get it, i take it for granted as if i always deserved it and the focus moves ahead.. so is with that perfect woman.. unless it is practical and symbiotic it will not work for me.. it will just be a desire which when fulfilled unless symbiotic may lose its meaning...

so for me it is a mind decision... emotions i believe will follow suit, they cannot lead me.. as you never call emotions to be intelligent, mind is referred to it.. so let intelligence/ mind lead me to my future decision and not emotions...

having said all about love ironically i am pretty happy being alone and dont have any strong need to involve myself.. there are needs but they have taken a backseat, there are more roads to conquer than this right now..

There are men too gentle to live among wolves

read the below in a blog... http://chandni.wordpress.com/


 wonderfully written
 

“I am one of the searchers. There are, I believe, millions of us. We are not unhappy, but neither are we really content. We continue to explore life, hoping to uncover its ultimate secret. We continue to explore ourselves, hoping to understand. We like to walk along the beach, we are drawn by the ocean, taken by its power, its unceasing motion, its mystery and unspeakable beauty. We like forests and mountains,, deserts and hidden rivers, and the lonely cities as well. Our sadness is as much a part of our lives as is our laughter. To share our sadness with one we love is perhaps as great a joy as we can know – unless it be to share our laughter.

We searchers are ambitious only for life itself, for everything beautiful it can provide. Most of all we love and want to be loved. We want to live in a relationship that will not impede our wandering, nor prevent our search, nor lock us in prison walls; that will take us for what little we have to give. We do not want to prove ourselves to another or compete for love.

For wanderers, dreamers, and lovers, for lonely men and women who dare to ask of life everything good and beautiful. It is for those who are too gentle to live among wolves.”

- James Kavanaugh, There are men too gentle to live among wolves 
 

to be or not to be

i am so logical most of the time... always rationalizing and building why's into all events of life...

but then i dont understand, i move by some silly melodramatic movies with love, romance, and relationships... i enjoy it and feel like transcending my life, the boundaries which i am living in.. transcending to make that diffrerence in someone else's life... and being loved for it...

It is funny as once the moment is over i am again calculating the siginificance of the thoughts and trying to know the whys... the emotional flow feels good but at the same time i feel scared as i think i may get attached, i cannot live upto others expectation, i cant give so much i am very selfish... or i may not like it and it may just be an illusion... myriad conflicting thoughts

life is so simple (i know logically) yet so complicated !!!

Understanding Life -2

In the last blog i mentioned life is about happiness, happiness a state of mind...

This state of mind is what is we should aim for but is extremely difficult to achieve.. the culprit according to me is the mind itself... this one is difficult to write about... anyways

mind gets addicted to ideas, thoughts, wants and therefore os the culprit.. let me try and explain..

you are happy, life is good, you have a good job, you are doing well... however you are single.. you meet a woman.. beautiful woman...  this is the first time u met her till now life was good content and happy... in a happy state of being... but you see this woman.. the mind says wow and wants her... you go home thinking about her.. u desire her even more... it so happens you bump into her and speak to her, she responds in a friendly manner... you now want her more.. the mind thinks about her make stories as how she will be with you, how life will be with her... creates an image a future though u are in present... and has a story which it starts believing in... mind works round the clock and develops a beautiful story... very much like the romantic movie he had seen with beautiful ending.. and they lived happily ever after... the story mind makes and this story mind sells it to itself so well that it starts believing life is shit without her....

so step back before he saw her, desired her a few days back he was happy... now he is unhappy.. very unhappy as he wants her, he is sold to a fiction story.. it is a fiction you have not lived the future you dont know how it will be with her.. but you dream and believe it to be so... but it is a dream and you feel unhappy till you get her... she may be married, engaged, may not like you who knows... but you are addicted to your story.... and till u get her or till you are rejected by her for whatever reason you will feel miserable.. if rejected well you will feel even more miserable...

what if you had not seen her.. you would have been happy with the way life was...

now the above is just a one want, but the mind is crazy.. each moment it creates more future wants... it wants to have a great party tomorrow, want to look good, be complimented, want a promotion, want money, want leisure, want lazy afternoon, want to win debates, want to watch a good movie, want to be fit, want to eat junk, want to have great physique, want to be most intelligent... the list is endless.. all is future, all is fiction with a happy ending story....

often these wants conflict and you never get all making you feel unhappy....

So life is about happiness, happiness a state of mind, mind sells future fiction story to be happy and since it is future, present is unhappy, worse the mind keeps creating future after future.. till death and never remains happy....

this state of mind should be the future mind must aim for and you can be then happier.. but how... maybe you have to stop the fiction and learn to enjoy with your mind the real, the present...

understanding life

I often say that life is complicated and difficult to understand... partly it is true... a very small part indeed is true... i have started to believe, the key to understanding life lies in understanding the mind...

life is multi dimensional and when i say above the dimension i am talking about is happiness... i think the purpose of life more than anything else is finding happiness, peace... and that is a dimension which can be best understood by one's mind... so life is only complicated to the extent you understand your mind... just one little mind :)...

let me explore happiness first...happiness is just a state of mind... it is not linked to acquiring assets or conquering some dreamland... though this can be debated..

but come to think of it, some booze and you are high, you feel happy.. you may have still not acquired the mercedez which you wanted to or the girl you want to impress is still unimpressed or ur desire of love may still remain unfulfilled but alcohol or a drug induces into a state of mind that you feel happy.. even when you are sitting on a pile of those unfinished, insatiated wants and needs...

booze is an artificial state of mind but it can be even without it.. happiness is not a prerogative of the rich or who have it all, one can be happy even otherwise...

It is a state of mind can be deduced in another manner, imagine a person who has only one desire to come first in some exam... even a 2nd place can led him to feel frustrated... he gives the exam but he does not come first... however someone tells him that he has... in that belief he feels very happy... he is not acquired it but mind believes he has come first.. mind first created a want and now just the belief he is first, he feels happy... just a state of mind.. only if he had wantd to come last he would have always been happy even without trying :)... it is not the rank first is an object which will go into your physical being and titillate you to happiness. it is just a feeling of a mind created through the want and desire...  it is a state which the person decided to be in only if he comes first... funny.. but whatever it is a state of mind, a feeling

you feel incomplete in some manner and you feel unhappy... start believing u r complete as whatever u are and you will be happy.. it is a state of mind....

a poor feels happy  when someone gives him some respect, he is not less happy than a person who buys a dimond set.. it is a state of mind which anyone can jump into.. and it does not need to be target oriented.. it could be just without target or without a want...

as a kid you are more happy as u just are in the state of mind you do not set yourself goals/ desires/ wants to be happy... u just feel happy...  without the girl, money, lazy time, favourite food, holiday... everyday is happy...

it is a state of mind but is a difficult state to achieve... and who can one blame... the mind itself, well will talk about it again in next blog...