Confidence

Confidence seems to be the mantra for success for everyone in every sphere of life. Nobody can doubt more than competence confidence is improtant to be able to succeed in the work one does.

Though some of you may think competence overrules but most of the work which one does is not a rocket science where competence really overrules. rest is average designed for average and the one who has self confidence wins. Look around yourself you will be able to agree to this.

But ironically the foundation of confidence which is learnt, preached by elders is entirely incorrect today. I mean today a child is made to feel confident only if he is better than others, only if he is ahead in the race, comparison with your inferior is the foundation of confidence. The locus is exterior and one only feels confident in comparison to others, in being able to defeat others. how incorrect such a foundation will be, when it is compared to others it will lead to negative feelings like jeolousy, insecurity (since your confidence is dependent on someone else losing and not on you own efforts), hatred, etc.

Come what may such a confidence has to shake you one day the other day as you will meet people who will be better than you and if you are not a genius (which only 10% of people are), you will meet better people more often and it will shake you and take your peace away. Stress is a factor of such confidence only which has to always watch others.

If the society has to be more peaceful and friendly, the foundation of confidence needs to change, it needs to be more inclusive of others and not emanating from me vs others.

It needs to be more based on tenet of philiosphy of efforts, of belief in oneself, of knowing your true self, of what level you are at of physical, emotional, intellectual, creative, spiritiual intelligence.. from whatever level you are you need to move forwad with belief in yourself.. that will be real confidence