True Confidence

This blog continues from my last post on confidence. If the confidence based on comparison is flawed then what is true confidence..

There are two important interrelated concepts which will make way for true confidence

1) Knowing yourself: The most important aspect for any individual to grow as a human being. Most of us either beleive ourselves bigger than what we are or smaller than what we really are. The first step is to know your true worth, true abilities.

There are no inabilities as there is a level of ability and nothing can be termed as an inability. It can be an inability only when you compare and that is as i mentioned flawed. Let me explain with an example. Imagine there is a 100 meter race and you are the only participant. You clock a minute to run that. That is your ability. Only when you start comparing with runners and the world records (which currently is at 9.7 seconds) the word inability comes in. Your ability to run today 100 meter race is 1 minute. That if is sufficient for the purpose you had to run the 100 meter is good for you. In the race not all of us have to come first, there is place for everyone. Not everyone needs to come first in academics, job, etc For first there is only one place rest most will fall in the region which is sufficient but may not be first. That is someone else's ability.

So ability is at a level, you need to know that. You need to know that along with your level. Level defines the ability. As human beings and in our existence on this planet there are different streams in which we can be able. We need to know the ability in all. You know it with experience with pusihing yourself in your life with new experiences. We do it more often in school and less in later life as it is during school days we are discovering ourselves in different fields (This is also one of the main objective of Schools). Based on our experience and our understanding our ability level we choose some over others. The ones we choose are the ones where the level of ability is such that you may be able to be provide for yourself and family successfully. The choice as we are multiply abled is a combination of interest and ability level.

The first aspect for true confidence therefore is knowing yourself.

Unfortunatley we get into comparison right from childhood and we run away from our true self as someone is better and we want to shield ourself from feeling low so we make illusions, excuses and get closed from reality.

2) Accepting Yourself and Your Efforts: After having knowing yourself you need to accept yourself and focus on efforts when delivering on a certain task. The success is not entirely in your hands + if you know you ability well you know what to expect of the outcome. if you know yourself well you will ask for help in areas where higher level of ability is required and you will succeed. So being confident will mean to be accept yourself, ask for help if required and make sincere efforts. It will more often lead to success and you will feel confident.

The dictionary meaning of confidence is: freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities