Love in popular terms is about sex. Its about finding that one elusive perfect life partner with whom one can live happily ever after. It is a good thought but one when gets it mind waivers for somehting more and something different, there is no perfection anyways
The popular love has something else too. Sex is definitely the biggest ingredient but the other ingredient is emotional need. You love a person who fulfills your emotional need. It is a one way traffic it is about what you get out of the partner. You only give to make sure that there is some hook for the partner too, to be in love.
You love the person who you think is smarter or in some way is fulfilling your emotional needs of security, appreciation, being able to show him/ her off in the social circle, etc
Real love has to transcend the popular love definitions and is much beyond the basics. One has to learn to give first in real love and really feel compassionate about the other . Quite difficult to achieve. Quite difficult to transcend one's own needs. Popular Love is not love but is perhaps a contract of give and take, i may be sounding cynical but i am not. I am being a realist and i am not being judgemental. As long as you give if and if you are taking i beleive it is a nice fulfilling relationship. If the equation anytime imbalances chances are you will develop cracks in relationships. Though popular love has its reasons to exist and works for most to keep them happy but it is not perfection or pure it has to be mastered, self has to be mastered in some manner to come to a point that you are able to just give.
The popular love has something else too. Sex is definitely the biggest ingredient but the other ingredient is emotional need. You love a person who fulfills your emotional need. It is a one way traffic it is about what you get out of the partner. You only give to make sure that there is some hook for the partner too, to be in love.
You love the person who you think is smarter or in some way is fulfilling your emotional needs of security, appreciation, being able to show him/ her off in the social circle, etc
Real love has to transcend the popular love definitions and is much beyond the basics. One has to learn to give first in real love and really feel compassionate about the other . Quite difficult to achieve. Quite difficult to transcend one's own needs. Popular Love is not love but is perhaps a contract of give and take, i may be sounding cynical but i am not. I am being a realist and i am not being judgemental. As long as you give if and if you are taking i beleive it is a nice fulfilling relationship. If the equation anytime imbalances chances are you will develop cracks in relationships. Though popular love has its reasons to exist and works for most to keep them happy but it is not perfection or pure it has to be mastered, self has to be mastered in some manner to come to a point that you are able to just give.
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